Manners Today

 

AsSalaamu Alykum and Hi,

What has happened to us? There is so much hatred and disrespect for one another. Where is the simple, thank you, as you go to take your coffee from the lady behind the counter? Or a smile and greeting as you pass someone? Maybe holding the door open for someone coming thru? Does no one have manners anymore? 

 

 

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I was taught manners. I still say yes sir and no sir.  Not to my husband but now that I think about it I may do it just to see his reaction lol.  No matter what, always try to say, thank you, when someone is helping you or giving you something.  Smiling is contagious. Try it, if you pass come close to passing someone smile at them most of the time they will smile back. How can you not spread joy like this? And go further to say hello: how is your day? Now I try not to be too friendly cause now days you can never be too careful but that does not mean frown all the time and never ask how someone is doing.  When I am having a bad day, smiling and making others smile brightens my day in no time.   Sometimes I get evil stares because of my hijab (covering my hair and body.) If you don't know or understand my way of life let me explain a little.  As a muslimah I am encouraged to cover my body and my hair. I do this as a personal choice.  No one forces me although my husband likes when I keep my charms from others and just for him.  And I love seeing the pride, admiration and the smile on his face when he sees me thus.  Plus it protects me from the sun.  And sometimes I don't even need to fix my hair but most of the time I do just cause I like too.  :)  There are those times though that I get a sweet smile back and a hello how are you.  I wish I could wave a magic wand and make everyone nice and accepting of other cultures and religions. We may not see eye to eye but that does not mean we cannot respect and love one another. After all did we not all come from Adam.  :(  I know there was a time when men held open doors for ladies. And believe it or not many guys still do. But woman are the worst or so I have discovered. I have children and I carry my computer and my purse with me plus hold my kids hands so they do not go far from me so opening a door is sometimes a struggle. And believe me it irritates me when I am approaching a door and a woman strides right thru and the door shuts in my face before I can juggle my things to hold it open. I have even managed to rush us thru quickly enough only to have it hit me in the well you can guess.  So I came up with a solution my boys are to open the doors when possible, they take turns. :) But I love when I see them jump up out of their chairs to race to the door to open it for a lady coming in or out.  Alhumdilulah (All praises and thanks to Allah/God) I am doing something right.  I love this.

Manners are important no matter your culture or your religious beliefs. I have worked really hard to instill manners in my children and to teach then to not do as others do but do the right thing even if that means you stand alone.  Kill them with kindness my sweet mother always said May Allah have mercy on her and accept her into Jennah (Hevan). I hope by reading this you can pick out where you can make changes in your own life as we all are imperfect.